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Ramona Had 171 Cases of Domestic Violence in 2011, Sheriff's Dept. Says

Department shares signs of an abusive relationship that may result in domestic violence.

The San Diego Sheriff's Department wants to remind residents that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Last year, the County Sheriff's Department handled 3,675 domestic violence cases. Of those cases, 171 of them were in Ramona.

"Those are the most dangerous calls for the deputy," said Crime Prevention Specialist Barbara Wallace, who works out of the Ramona Sheriff's Department Substation. "Even though the couple is fighting, they get protective of each other."

The sheriff's department wants to remind residents that "love is not abusive," and to start a conversation now with someone you know if you suspect they are in a violent situation.

"Communication is the key," said Wallace. "If you're upset, stop and take a breath."

According to the sheriff's department, each day, three people are killed in America in domestic violence incidents. Men, women, children, elders and pets can all be victims of domestic violence. 

Wallace told Patch that the weather impacts people, especially when temperatures get high.

"There's always more fighting when the heat goes up," she said. "We're all human. People get irritable."

California law describes domestic violence as any abuse committed against an adult or a minor who is a spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, or person with whom the suspect has had a child or is having or has had a dating or engagement relationship. "Cohabitant" means two unrelated adult persons living together for a substantial period of time, resulting in some permanency of relationship. 

The San Diego County Sheriff's Department has a list of some signs of an abusive relationship that may result in domestic violence:

  • Your partner exhibits extreme jealousy
  • You are overly concerned about what kind of mood your partner is in
  • Your partner prevents you from seeing your friends or family, or alienates them so that they are uncomfortable being around
  • Your partner threatens to hurt or kill you, your children, your family, friends or pets
  • Your partner yells at you, reprimands you, or demeans you in public
  • Your partner hits, slaps, pushes or shoves you, pulls your hair, or inflicts physical injury on you in any way
  • Your partner prevents you from getting or keeping a job
  • Your partner keeps you from leaving the house or locks you out of the house.

Wallace said it's important to remember that every relationship has its ups and downs and to "find a place to cool off" before any argument gets too heated.

"It's normal in every relationship to disagree," she said.

Need help? Here's a list of local resources to help prevent domestic violence:

  • Contact the local sheriff’s department substation at 760-789-9157.
  • Call the San Diego County Domestic Violence 24-hour hotline 1-888-DVLINKS (385-4657) for emergency assistance or ongoing needs.
  • Leave your home or have someone stay with you. Go to a shelter. Call the North County Family Violence Prevention Center at 760-798-2835. 
  • Get medical attention from your doctor or hospital emergency room. Ask the staff to photograph your injuries and keep detailed records in case you decide to take legal action.

Ramona's substation also has a pamphlet with resources including family services, legal assistance, emergency shelters, emergency food and clothing and more.



greg Chick October 10, 2012 at 05:15 PM
171 were logged hundreds more were not. The news is a stimulant to aggression. The News tries to do so. I do not watch it. Drinking is another stimulant, we have a social problem here on this issue as with most all issues. Self worth from work ethic is at a low. I think this is part of the social issue. People have time and energy to fight. When I am exhausted, I am very agreeable and submissive, I say "yea right " More people need to work, as well feel good about themselves. I see a shrink daily.... Greg Chick
Jane Tanaka MD October 10, 2012 at 06:38 PM
Agree with my husband, Greg Chick, that yes there are definitely a lot more cases of domestic violence that do not get reported for many reasons, including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from abuse. I've learned from my patients with PTSD that they are afraid to report any abuse because they feel trapped, and fear that something worse will happen if they report the abuse... they fear that their family member who has the anger/aggression issues will end up in losing their job due to jail time, and there will be no financial means for the family to survive... or that they will incite more anger/aggression and the restraining order they file will not keep their aggressor away... or that they themselves would be shunned by family and friends who dont believe their reports of abuse. Walking on eggshells , and sense of impending doom , as well as freezing up due to anxiety are common symptoms.
Jane Tanaka MD October 10, 2012 at 06:45 PM
Domestic violence can initially begin with emotional and verbal abuse . Suggest the books " Survivors of Verbal Abuse Speak Out" and "Stop Walking on Eggshells" for more information. Also untreated depression, ptsd, bipolar disorder, personality disorders (borderline, narcissitic , antisocial ) , chemical dependency, acute stress from financial stress/job loss, can lead to domestic violence.
Jane Tanaka MD October 10, 2012 at 07:01 PM
One of the most effective ways of preventive domestic abuse is to see the warning signs at the beginning of a relationship, and not get further involved with someone who shows these signs. These signs include: hitting/kicking objects when angry, leading you to believe you are inferior to him/her; verbal threats of aggression/violence, disrepect toward parents/family members, externalizing blame/not taking responsibility for one's actions/failures/mistakes, cruelty to animals and children, lack of empathy/invalidation of your feelings, intense jealousy, intense controlling behaviors, isolating you from friends/family, blaming you for making them feel angry, past history of domestic violence, ... and a gut feeling that you can't relax around them.. you have to walk on eggshells to prevent them from being upset with you. Use your powers of observation and your intuitive radar to protect yourself from becoming involved in a physically abusive relationship before the aggression starts.

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